Can’t buy me love…that is what goes through my head when I see those who have to buy their way to pleasing others. Being materialistic is a trait I am proud to not have. I work hard for what I have. It isn’t much, but I can say I earned it. I don’t have a fancy house or car. I have never bought my kids all the latest gadgets. I don’t believe in “keeping up with the Joneses”. I refuse to run up a credit card to the max just to show I have more than the next person.
Admittedly, I used to be severely depressed over seeing those who didn’t deserve it, have a nice house, car, gadgets, etc. As I grew older and wiser, I realized these same people were in major credit card debt, had mortgaged homes multiple times, and generally felt they had to buy people’s love.
I buy what I can afford (and within reason) for myself and my family. I am proud to say my only debt is my car payment (nothing fancy and this is the last time I will ever take a loan) and it is not a high end vehicle. I have student loan debt, but that was to better myself so I could provide for my family.
I can only hope as my children (not really children anymore at almost 21, 19, and 13) will realize who worked hard to provide for the basics for them (myself and other family members). There were those who bought their love at times. It hurts and yes, at times I still get angry. However, at this point the anger is because they are being taught the wrong values when their love is bought. In the end, I hope they have learned working hard, not putting life on credit, and making memories is the real road to happiness.